Evelyn (nee Traut) Busam passed away peacefully Feb. 7, 2022 at the age of 105. She was born on Aug. 12, 1916 to the late Robert L. Sr. and Johanna (nee Grueter) Traut. Evelyn was the beloved wife of the late Stanley H. Busam and is survived by her six devoted children: Mary Jo (Larry) Lohrer, J. Robert (Mary Lee) Busam, Elizabeth (the late Patrick) Ronan, S. James (Maggie) Busam, Anne Marie (Brian) Gibler and David R.(Connie) Busam. Evelyn's dear and only brother, Robert L. Jr. was killed in WWII. She will also be deeply missed by her 25 Grandchildren and 53 Great Grandchildren. Evelyn was a long time parishioner at St. Jude's Parish and most recently a cherished member of the community at Bayley Place. Visitation will be Sat, Feb.12, 2022 from 9am to 10am at the Rebold Funeral Home, 3700 Glenmore Ave. Cheviot. Mass of Christian Burial will be at 10:30 am, Saturday at St. Jude's Church, 5924 Bridgetown Rd. Cincinnati, 45248. Memorial contributions may be made to Seton High School or Bayley Place.
First part of the Eulogy for Evelyn T. Busam, Funeral Mass of February 12, 2022
by Patricia Evelyn Ronan – Granddaughter
My name is Patricia Evelyn. I am honored to be named for by grandmother, Evelyn Eleanor Traut Busam.
I am her 8th grandchild and second daughter to her third child, Elizabeth Busam Ronan.
The Lord promised Abraham that in return for keeping the covenant of faith, the descendants of Abraham and Sarah would be more numerous than the stars in the sky and the sands of the sea.
So it is for Stanley and Evelyn, who had six children, 25 grandchildren, and 53 great grandchildren (so far).
A large family is the result of love. And I have been fortunate to benefit from my Grandma’s love in many ways. It stays with me, even as she has moved on.
Grandma’s best lessons were about love: Show up, show your love, and trust in God’s love to care for us.
Through these lessons, I learned the foundations of the Catholic virtues of faith, hope and charity. Grandma lived them every day. It is said that any virtue first requires courage, and Grandma exemplified courage in how she lived these virtues, too.
In the early 1980s, around 1982, Grandpa Stanley was very ill. Grandma accompanied him to his many medical appointments and treatments. Showing up for Stan was courageous and loving. During that difficult time, Grandma showed up for her grandchildren in a special way, too. There were about 15 of us at that time, and that year for Christmas, she gave us each a sweater she had knitted while she was at the doctors with Grandpa. Grandma knew how to show love to many of us all at the same time.
After Grandpa’s death, Grandma had to faith and courage to adjust to a new life. Although she was always a committed and loyal West Side Cincinnatian, born in Cheviot and living there until the early 1960s when the family moved to Charity Drive in Bridgetown/Dent, in 1984, Evelyn began her world travels. That year she went around the world, first meeting the Ronans in Ireland, continuing on to a tour with Father Urbane of the Vatican, then meeting David in Asia, where she saw Japan, Thailand and India. From there she flew to Hawaii, and then back to Cincinnati. Most of Grandma’s trip was on her own, and it was her first time overseas. Grandma’s faith and courage were HUGE.
Grandma showed up for us Ronans in a special way in 1985. That year Beth needed urgent surgery. It was a scary time for the four children, ages 13, 10, 9, and 5. Patrick accompanied Beth to Richmond for the procedure, and Grandma stayed with the children through the surgery and for several weeks during Beth’s recovery. Grandma was an anchor in the face of deep anxieties. She taught us to pray the rosary and turn to prayer to assuage our fears. Grandma took in stride the massive snow storm that kept us all at home, and helped get Adam to his basketball games, despite the gravel country roads and forbidding weather. Grandma showed up and taught us to trust God.
Grandma showed up for all of her family, especially to celebrate our achievements and the sacraments. Grandma showed us her love, and was always our biggest cheerleader. Grandma traveled for all of us: to graduations at high schools and universities all over the US and even in the UK, to baptisms, first communions, confirmations, weddings (especially weddings, because Grandma really loved a good party).
This family now has a cheerleader in heaven, but her love and her lessons stay with us. Just as Grandma taught us, we show up for her, for one another, we show our love, and we stay present to the love of the Lord, trusting that God cares for us and for Evelyn in her heavenly home.
Second part of the Eulogy for Evelyn T. Busam, Funeral Mass of February 12, 2022
by Walter B. Gibler – Grandson
Riddle me this. What do Tom Brady, Albert Einstein and Evelyn Busam all have in common? They are each the GOAT. The Greatest. Of. All. Time.
Humor me for another second. What do quantum physics, true love, and Grandma also all have in common? They are each incredibly powerful and complex topics, and are very difficult to give proper justice to in only a few brief moments. I’m going to do my best though.
With that said and without further ado, Evelyn T. Busam was certainly the best of the best. Wife, mother, grandma, great grandma, friend, caregiver, hostess, life of the party and dominant card player. Over 105 years, she lived through two world wars, Korean, Vietnam, Cold and Iraqi wars, Prohibition, Great Depression, women’s suffrage and landing on the moon. She has been around for the invention of the TV, computer, internet, and cellphone. She has been around since the creation of the bow and arrow. Okay… probably not the bow and arrow. That came about like 4,000 years ago. But you get the point. She has been around for monumental events in history
It is not these landmark times she lived through that make her incredible. While her longevity is jaw-dropping, what makes her special is the ability she had to make each and every one she came into contact with a better person. Whether she was hosting a Sunday night dinner for family at her own condo after she drove her own car up to the grocery, got all of the ingredients and then prepared the meal — all at the age of 98, or whether it was her dominating in bridge against her friends at every diner on the west side, attending as many of the 4,000 different parties and events this family has here every year, traveling to Chicago to watch a basketball game, volunteering at the soup kitchen or sitting in these very pews for daily mass here at St Jude for 55 years, she had a social calendar that was busier than almost everyone else’s here. :)
Regardless of how busy she was though, she would always make sure we knew how much she cared. The simplest way she knew how to do that was through her faith. She would always let you know that she was praying for you daily at mass - some of us needed it more than others – and she would always end the phone calls with I love you, God bless you. She showed her love not only through words but her actions. She was selfless and caring with her time and energy. Always thoughtful. Here is a voicemail she left me from when she was 97 years old. — play voicemail on cell phone. This was not an anomaly. This is how she acted every day. When my Grandma Gibler moved to Cincinnati from Louisville in 2000, Grandma Busam, at the young age of 84, took her under her wing. She went out of her way to introduce her to her different friend groups, invited her to play cards and would always have her over for dinner. They were the best of friends and would call each other daily just to make sure the other one was doing okay. Grandma Busam always made sure Grandma Gibler felt welcome.
While she was incredibly sweet and kind, she also had a quick wit and would let you know how she felt about things, for better or for worse. :) The two Grandmas would often go on family vacations with us. One night on vacation after dinner, we were sitting there and I innocently asked Grandma Gibler, “Why don’t you drink alcohol?” She responded, “I am on too many medications and pills.” Without skipping a beat, Grandma Busam chimed in, “That’s why I don’t take pills!”
While I stand up here today, I know that my stories and perspective could be echoed by everyone of us here in this room. The profound impact that grandma has had on each and every one of us is special. While she is no longer here with us in person, she will live in each one of us forever
As Kate and Jim McCurdy’s son Liam said so eloquently: “Well at least she can go to Heaven and see her husband. She can be an angel now.”
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